It sounds like you have been a wonderful support to your parents. Caring for two people with dementia is a lot to handle, and the question of when it is time to transition a person with dementia into another residence has no easy answers, but here are a few things to consider:
- Is your mother able to be safe living at home? Does she attempt to or actually leave the home alone? Is she able to sit, stand, and walk independently? Is she continuing to have falls? Is she losing weight or suffering from other health conditions that are impacting the quality of her life?
- Has the stress of caregiving become overwhelming? Is the family getting enough sleep at night? Do you and your father have time off to yourselves? Is your or your father’s mental, physical, and/or emotional health suffering?
- Does your mother show signs of being withdrawn or isolated — not engaging in any activities during the day? Would she benefit from a wider range of social contacts and distractions to keep her alert and occupied?
- Does your mother have incontinence or other challenging personal care needs? Is she resistant to your efforts to care for her? Does she allow you to help with her hygiene?
A memory care facility has a staff of professional caregivers whose job it is to keep people with dementia engaged and content. And your needs, as a loving family member, are just as important as the needs of the person with dementia. To help you make a decision, you may want to consider consulting with a healthcare professional or joining a support group to talk to others who are in a similar situation.
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